Archive for August, 2012

Personal Development and Judging

Wednesday, August 8th, 2012

I decided to put forth the effort and invest in my personal development, which I am sure will not only benefit my personal life, but my professional life as well. Of course, the only way to make this happen, is to not only take in the knowledge, but apply it as well. Duh!! I have placed my attention towards a genre of development outlets such as: an audio book from John C. Maxwell on The 5 Levels of Leadership, a book by Dani Johnson regarding First Steps to Wealth and a book by Don Miguel Ruiz addressing The Voice of Knowledge.

Learning to look within myself, recognize my weaknesses, work off of my strengths, admit that nobody is perfect, and understand that we all have things happen in our lives that create who we are and how we choose to handle those happenings, not only has an impact on us but those around us. We all have something positive to contribute, but it sometimes appears that being negative is the easier route to take, yet we never notice the impact it inadvertently has on ourselves and directly on others.

I looked on Facebook the other day and saw an advertisement for P90X and next to the advertisement was a photo of one of the Top 5 Elite Coaches-meaning that this person has invested a lot, I mean a lot of time on their personal development and working with people. I had seen this coach on occasion at events Jo-Anne and I had been to for Beachbody, but this coach and I had never spoken. The coaches team members would speak about and support their coach with the highest of praise and appreciation. When I saw the P90X post, with the advertisement photo, I began reading the responses to the post. I became instantly offended by a majority of the posts and protective of this coach with whom I have never personally met. The persons posting the negative and extremely JUDGMENTAL comments had never met this coach either. How could I tell??? Well, not once did any of the naysayers mention this coaches name and those who did mention it, defended this coach because they either spoke to, knew or had seen the positive things this coach had done for their team or for others (like I did). All the JUDGES did during their posts was attack this coaches physical appearance (one of the coaches assets) without blinking an eye. Then when other negative people jumped on the band wagon, that seemed to give more ammunition to the original naysayers to criticize even more. Never once did they seem to blink an eye that they were judging someone they didn’t even know and knew nothing about. We have all judged but WHEN DOES JUDGMENT DAY STOP????

This got me to thinking. What made all of these 30+ people verbally attack this person they did not know. Where they intimidated, jealous, insecure over things this coach possessed that they didn’t?

Without knowing someone, how many times do we sit in judgment and exhibit negative thoughts or comments to others and about others that we may or may not know? I thought to myself, who am I to judge anyone? I am not perfect. I have my flaws and insecurities……I was raised without money, fought my demons with food, was in a physically bad relationship, am currently in a relationship supported by some and bashed upon by most, those who are too busy making judgments to take the time to see the whole picture.

How am I to succeed both professionally and personally if I have a preconceived belief of others and not a true hold and identity of myself. Don Miguel Ruiz said, “As little children, we are completely authentic. We never pretend to be what we are not. Our tendency is to play and explore, to live in the moment, to enjoy life. No body teaches us to be that way; we are born that way.”

I have learned to believe that even as adults we are authentic and to judge others only places us at a disadvantage from being able to learn from those who too are authentic. If I lived in a world of everyone like me, I would go crazy. Some people were either born with or given advantage over others, but everyone has their faults, either closeted or with the front door wide open. Some people say that there is only one individual that has the right to judge and I can’t disagree with that.

What makes one person better than another??? If anyone can answer that for me, then let the world be one huge courtroom, but until someone can answer that for me, I will continue to focus on things that I am learning within and about myself. Dani Johnson: “In order to get where you want to go, something has to change.” “If you focus on loosing, then you will loose” and the #1 mistake people make is lack of focus. Focus on the negative gets you 0. Focus negatively on people and I believe you will get distrust and disliked = being unsuccessful and unhappy.

Focusing on ways to make yourself better and going through personal development maybe gives less time for judgment and more time for your successes.

Change Your Focus

Friday, August 3rd, 2012

Have you ever sat down and wondered about your life and thought that nothing is going right? You know you are a good person, you treat people well, you do the right thing but you always feel like you can’t win. You know that life isn’t about winning and losing but you see people around you that are happy, have great jobs, have beautiful kids, are in amazing shape and you are the one with the job you do not like, the relationship that is falling apart and you are gaining weight like nobodies business. I can’t imagine anyone who hasn’t felt like this ever, am I right? If you say you haven’t I say you are lying to yourself. We all have! ┬áTime to change your focus.

Let’s put a spin on it. Do you only focus on those negative parts in your life? Do you always think about the things going wrong and never about the good things in your life? I bet if you sat down for a moment you probably could think of some positives in your life right? Are you healthy? Think of all of those people who have medical conditions just trying to live. I’m very thankful for that. I have Epilepsy and there is not one day I think about the fact that I have to take 5 pills in the morning and 5 at night because I think of my buddy Chris who is trying to survive Leukemia or I think of my mom who survived an acoustic┬áneuroma and an aneurysm or our friend Jen who survived a brain tumor. I have it great! Do you have a roof over your head and food to eat? You are reading this so I assume you have access to a computer or phone so that is a good thing, some people don’t. Do you have people who love you like parents, friends, family? Do you at least have a job, even if you do not like it? In this economy we should be thankful to even be employed. What is my point? My point is to focus on the positive, not the negative. YOur life will seem pretty darn amazing.

When you start to focus on the positive things in your life then guess what will happen, good things will happen? It is true. You have heard the quote “good things happen to good people” well it really does happen. I can’t tell you when it will happen but it really does. You just have to continue treating people right, doing the right thing for other people and you have to start focusing on the positive in your life and trust me, good things will happen to you.

I can’t tell you how many rough patches I have been through in my life, there have been a lot but I can tell you that there have been many, many more positives. Those are the ones I like to think about because those are the ones that have changed my life. The struggles have made me a stronger person for sure and while they did occur and they really sucked I moved on. The great times in my life though are my reason for loving life.

I love working with people and helping them improves their lives for the better. I have a great mentor and friend, Dave, who has helped me become a better person. I have a great partner, Michelle, who has also helped me immensely improved my life. I also have found an amazing opportunity, being a Beachbody Coach, that has turned my life around 180 degrees. THese are the things that are truly life changing.

It is worth it. Focus on the positive and improve your life. We’d love to help you so feel free to email us and get in touch. We have a great team of people doing great things with their life because of their focus. Join us!