Posts Tagged ‘positivity’

My journey with having an eating disorder and fitness

Monday, October 14th, 2013

I thought I would step out of my comfort zone and talk about something that those with an eating disorder never really feel that comfortable talking about…and that is that we have or had an eating disorder. No, I am not a therapist of any kind so the opinions expressed are of my own experience with having an eating disorder from the age of about 19 years old to about 28 years old.

I grew up a tomboy, playing sports all of the time from the age of about 7 to 18. Then something called “real life” happened and the fairy tales experienced as a child are gone and responsibilities took place. Any pressures or “not so fun” things experienced as a child seemed to surface and they had to be dealt with. Of course as you get older, you become more aware of things and coping mechanisms are created to deal with stressful situations. Some coping mechanisms are healthy such as writing in a  journal, going for a run and talking to others.

I was a quiet child, I know hard to believe if you know me now, but my stress relief as a child was playing, running, pretending I was chasing the bad guy, using my imagination. I was an insecure child who didn’t have the “in” clothes or the “in” haircut, oh and we had little to no money. I went to a school where everyone’s parents were either a doctor or lawyer and my mother was working exceptionally hard to just make sure we had food and a roof over our head.

As a teen, pretending to be who you are not is a lot of hard work and a lot of unwarranted stress.  I was no longer a child though and life super smacked me in the face. I was a grown up and had too much stress thrown my way. So, control for me came at the hands of food and lots of it. I could control what and how much I ate and when I wanted to “release” the fullness and control, I did so.

As time went on, life had it ups and downs, but then I found the fitness track again and the healthy means of controlling my life. I met people who had my same goals in mind, which was living a healthy life by eating right and being active. I talked to people about my journey with food and they did not judge, they listened and some could actually relate.

I believe my unhealthy journey with food and the on-going battle with food and stress in my life unknowingly created a willful, determined and strong mind that to this day helps me overcome things by way of literally working out the problem instead of eating it away. My workouts are not unhealthy, meaning that I don’t for 2-3 hours at a time running, doing weights, etc… I am on a schedule and if I have to veer from that schedule for some reason, I make sure that I hold myself accountable to doing something active the next day.

It works for me to say, “A healthy mind is essential for a healthy body”, so I have committed myself to eating well, working out at least 5 days a week, associating with healthy, like minded people and eliminating as much stress from my life that I have control over.

If you can relate to any of this, then don’t hesitate to contact me. I am here to help people on their journey to having a healthier, active and happier life.  I am proud to say that I am 10 years “clean” so I must be doing something right.

Motivation…what is and where can I find it???

Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

Ugh, ever have one of those days, weeks, months where you just feel like you never want to see those running shoes again, or lift another weight, or do another squat, crunch or lunge?? What you’re lacking is MOTIVATION. Now how do you get it and what the heck is it? Motivation can come from ideas, events, things, other people’s guidance and support or it can come from within-like a personality trait. No matter where your MOTIVATION comes from, YOU are always the important role in the play.positive[5]

MOTIVATION is a drive that gives purpose and direction to what YOU do. Internal motivation when it comes to exercise is a persons pleasure and experience with exercise.  If you are a person who internally pushes yourself away from exercising by making excuses, complaining about exercising or are inconsistent with your exercise program then I have a few questions for you. WHO ARE YOU SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH? Positive, motivated, energetic people. Or negative, lackluster, slumdog “ain’t no millionare here” people. I think that “you become the company you keep” and “The apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree”. If you are constantly around poisonous people then you will become infected.

WHAT ARE YOU PUTTING IN YOUR MOUTH? Fruits, vegetables, whole wheat grains, water. Or french fries, pizza, hamburgers, soda, candy bars. I think it is hard to motivate yourself when you feel weighed down from your daily intake of crap. Your metabolism hits rock bottom and you’re dragging. It’s hard to motivate yourself when you have just downed a hamburger and fries for lunch or deep fried chicken and mashed potatoes for dinner. “You are what you eat”, that saying is true. I am waiting to turn into a skinless chicken one day. To me, what I put into my mouth in the morning will basically project how my day will go. If I were to have an empty calorie doughnut, then I would be on a sugar high then crash…looking for more sugar to get me back to that high. Oh and let’s not forget that I might as well strap that one to my thigh or stomach because that’s where it is going. If I were to have oatmeal with a wee bit of honey, then I know it is healthy and it has filled me up and given me healthy, MOTIVATING, sustainable energy without the guilt.969570_571342776256548_1000400611_n

In short, look for healthy, positive people who have the  same or similar goals that you have regarding food and fitness. Become a part of a group who workout together, make each other accountable, share tips and ideas for workout plans and nutritional plans. When you MOTIVATE yourself to become better, others will see it and become MOTIVATED to become better as well.

 

Change Your Focus

Friday, August 3rd, 2012

Have you ever sat down and wondered about your life and thought that nothing is going right? You know you are a good person, you treat people well, you do the right thing but you always feel like you can’t win. You know that life isn’t about winning and losing but you see people around you that are happy, have great jobs, have beautiful kids, are in amazing shape and you are the one with the job you do not like, the relationship that is falling apart and you are gaining weight like nobodies business. I can’t imagine anyone who hasn’t felt like this ever, am I right? If you say you haven’t I say you are lying to yourself. We all have!  Time to change your focus.

Let’s put a spin on it. Do you only focus on those negative parts in your life? Do you always think about the things going wrong and never about the good things in your life? I bet if you sat down for a moment you probably could think of some positives in your life right? Are you healthy? Think of all of those people who have medical conditions just trying to live. I’m very thankful for that. I have Epilepsy and there is not one day I think about the fact that I have to take 5 pills in the morning and 5 at night because I think of my buddy Chris who is trying to survive Leukemia or I think of my mom who survived an acoustic neuroma and an aneurysm or our friend Jen who survived a brain tumor. I have it great! Do you have a roof over your head and food to eat? You are reading this so I assume you have access to a computer or phone so that is a good thing, some people don’t. Do you have people who love you like parents, friends, family? Do you at least have a job, even if you do not like it? In this economy we should be thankful to even be employed. What is my point? My point is to focus on the positive, not the negative. YOur life will seem pretty darn amazing.

When you start to focus on the positive things in your life then guess what will happen, good things will happen? It is true. You have heard the quote “good things happen to good people” well it really does happen. I can’t tell you when it will happen but it really does. You just have to continue treating people right, doing the right thing for other people and you have to start focusing on the positive in your life and trust me, good things will happen to you.

I can’t tell you how many rough patches I have been through in my life, there have been a lot but I can tell you that there have been many, many more positives. Those are the ones I like to think about because those are the ones that have changed my life. The struggles have made me a stronger person for sure and while they did occur and they really sucked I moved on. The great times in my life though are my reason for loving life.

I love working with people and helping them improves their lives for the better. I have a great mentor and friend, Dave, who has helped me become a better person. I have a great partner, Michelle, who has also helped me immensely improved my life. I also have found an amazing opportunity, being a Beachbody Coach, that has turned my life around 180 degrees. THese are the things that are truly life changing.

It is worth it. Focus on the positive and improve your life. We’d love to help you so feel free to email us and get in touch. We have a great team of people doing great things with their life because of their focus. Join us!

MOTIVATION….we all have it hidden somewhere

Wednesday, July 11th, 2012

I woke up today and the question popped in my head, “What motivates people? What motivates me? Why I am so motivated and others aren’t? What exactly is motivation to me?”

Well, Merriam-Webster would say motivation is: The act or process of motivating. The condition of being motivated.  A motivating force, stimulus or influence: incentive, drive.

Another definition is: The reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.  The general desire or willingness of someone to do something. 

We know that there are good motivators and bad motivators out there.  Food, alcohol, drugs, negative people are bad motivators.  They are a stimulus or influence and more than not, a reason one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.  A way that can harm and damage a persons self-esteem, health and overall well-being.  When we let the negative motivators take over our lives then we loose control of ourselves, which in turn affects our families, our relationships with others and can lead to unknown self destruction of ourselves internally.

Fitness, fitness, fitness, healthy eating habits and positive people are motivators that will help us live longer, happier and productive lives.  I have engulfed myself in fitness all of my life due to the unforeseen happening of “life’s occurrences”, but I also caused damage to myself by having food (negative motivator) take place in my life during my late teens and early twenties.  It takes time for some, myself included, to find those positive motivators and make them a permanent part in our lives.

Mine not only is fitness, but is being in a healthy relationship, being around friends that are positive and learning to eat to live NOT living to eat.  As one of my favorite workout programs (P90X2) says, it takes TIME, PATIENCE and PRACTICE to get to where we want to be in our lives.

Never giving up and finding what your POSITIVE MOTIVATION IS and who your POSITIVE MOTIVATORS are is pertinent for success, health and wellness.   For some people in our wonderful workout group it is keeping the momentum of feeling strong and getting stronger.  A couple of team members stated that their kids were their motivation and having their kids see that working out is enjoyable, then the positive impact of working out will motivate the kids to be active and not become overweight or have a weight problem at all.  Wanting to be around to watch not only their children grow up, but their grand kids as well.  Anger motivates some people to get things done and for others it is accomplishment.  Seeing how far they have come in their health and fitness goals and wanting to maintain that “high”, so to speak, of doing something good for yourself and seeing/feeling positive results.  One of our team members is motivated to workout so she can “rock a belly button ring”-awesome.  This last one made me smile and I have to agree that we all have MOTIVATION hidden somewhere.

Whatever your positive motivation is, make sure to spread it around like wildfire because there is someone you know who needs that kind of motivation in their life.  If it is not your motivator that gets them going, then help them find theirs because we know that we all have it hidden somewhere. 

Michelle

My Year as a Beachbody Coach

Tuesday, March 13th, 2012

 

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As I sit here today thinking that I will leaving for the Success Club trip to the Atlantis Resort in the Bahamas in one week I look back and realize that I have not even been a Beachbody Coach for one year yet but being a Beachbody Coach has changed my life in so many ways.  I never would have imagined back in May 2011 that when I signed up to be a Beachbody Coach that this company would be sending me to the Atlantis Resort in the Bahamas just because I have helped so many people with support, motivation, nutrition, and just general fitness.

Quite honestly, when I first signed up to be a Coach with Beachbody I just wanted that discount on Shakeology, I mean, 25% is a big discount and if I can get a discount on all these great products I was going to take it.  I thought that I was not going to fall for yet another network marketing scam…again!  I have a full time job that pays the bills, that was good enough for me. I am no sucker for network marketing.  You are not going to catch me Beachbody, you can catch another sucker willing to give you a $39.95 sign up fee!  Haha!  So I took my discount and ran with it.

Well, what happenend?  It’s a year later nearly and I’m still a Beachbody Coach, a Diamond Coach in fact.  What happened is that this is the REAL DEAL!  No joke here.  I actually realized that I could help people and make money at the same time.  I never imagined it.  I started meeting the most wonderful people ever, people that turned into the greatest friends and mentors.  I started helping people with their workouts, supporting and motivating them through some tough times and even good times, answering nutrition questions, and just being there and building relationships.  I was having the most fun ever.  Oh, and I was making money doing it!  I not only would get paid weekly by Beachbody but I qualified for free t-shirts, free baseball caps, I just recently was on a team for the Success Club Team Challenge that came in 35th place out of 100 and we earned a t-shirt, baseball cap, headphones, laptop bag, duffle bag, and hoodie all courtesy of Beachbody. Did I forget to mention that trip to Atlantis in the Bahamas!  Oh, and what about the paychecks, yup, I still am getting paid every week.  I have met one of my best friends through Beachbody, I don’t need money for that.

Beachbody has allowed me to gain access to the most amazing fitness programs like P90X, TurboFire, Insanity, P90X2, 10 Minute Trainer, Hip Hop Abs and many more.  It has also introduced me to  wonderful nutritional supplements like Shakeology, a meal replacement that I would never go a day without that I wish I would have heard about years ago.  The best part about this company and opportunity is that it has given me the chance to meet the most amazing people that I never would have ever gotten the chance to meet.  Sure, getting my weekly checks is wonderful and winning trips is great but meeting all these wonderful people is so fantastic.  I cannot wait to meet some of them in Atlantis and then more of them at Coach Summit in Las Vegas in June.  I wish I could meet more of them.

It’s funny because I don’t know how many times I have told people how amazing this opportunity is and I think that they think I am trying to sell it to them but I truly know that this is the best thing that has happened in my life (besides meeting my wonderful partner).  How do you tell someone about something so amazing without them thinking you are trying to rope them into some fandangled scheme?  I guess you just have to prove it to them.  Beachbody is no joke.  You will get nothing out of it if you put nothing into it.  The more you give it the more you get.  You can put in hours a day or just a few minutes a day and your results will vary.  You can work it part time or full time.  Either way, you can and will succeed if you give it all you have.  It is just like working out.  If you push yourself to the max then you will get results, if you don’t then you won’t get results.  The same goes with the Beachbody Business Opportunity, if you give it your all you will succeed and then I will see you next year on the Success Club trip to DisneyWorld.  Do you want to be on my team?  Will you be my next Diamond Coach? Are you in?

Please, please, please contact me via this website or email me at jobrandes@overactivelife.com if you have any questions.  I LOVE talking to anyone and everyone regarding this opportunity.

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Are There Really Benefits To Being A Positive Person?

Thursday, August 11th, 2011

Honestly, if you or someone you know has to ask this question then be afraid, be very afraid.   Absolutely there are benefits about being, thinking and acting positively and especially associating with positive people.  Don’t get me wrong, we all have things happen in our lives that are or that we consider to be devastating, life changing, abnormal or negative.  How you choose to handle these types of situations is up to you.  I know, I know,  easier said than done, but you at least have to try at becoming a better person for yourself and those who have to spend almost every waking hour around you, either  at home or at work.

Think about it.  If you believe that bad things happen to you all of the time, that the world is coming to an end, that there is absolutely no light at the end of the tunnel, then you will be destined to live a life of loneliness, depression and misery.  Think again, is that really considered living? No.  It’s called moping, vile and you just carry around a huge cloud of boo-hoo everywhere you go.  Who really wants to befriend such a negative person?

So, why is it important to LIVE a positive life?attitude is everything graphic

  • Studies have shown that people become more successful easier and faster than their negative counterparts.
  • The obvious of being a happier person.
  • More energy and inner power and strength to accomplish and achieve goals in LIFE.
  • You end up with this amazing power to inspire and motivate others.
  • With a positive mindset, any adversity you might face, will be handled with a greater logic and reasoning.
  • “Good things happen to good (positive) people”.
  • People respect and want to be around you. You end up being a positive role model for your children, for those who work with you or for you and relationships become less stressful and more enjoyable.

This is a choice and your choice should be that you want to Be Happy and “look on the bright side of life”.  In situations of stress or negativity there has to be some positive in it or you would never get out of it alive.  Things blow over with time, patience and positivity.

You eat right and work out to keep your body in shape, but do you ever think about how you can make your mind/body healthier.  Positive thinking, positive people and a positive attitude will take you farther than you know when it comes to your mental and physical health.

A baby mosquito came back after its 1st fight.
Dad asked: “How did you feel?”
Baby mosquito replied: “Dad it was wonderful. Everyone was clapping for me”

Moral: Take everything positively