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Stress and Relationships

Monday, November 11th, 2013

By no means am I saying that I am a therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist or have a doctorate in anything except a doctorate of life and am a doctorate of my own opinion.  When it comes to stress and the affects it has on life, I can tell you that your health is one of the first things to feel it.  Your pulse increases, blood pressure rises, heart is pumping harder and faster than it probably should, but the reason it’s working so hard isn’t out of enjoyment, it’s out of tension you are unknowingly, or knowingly placing on your body.

You are putting stress on your mind, tension in your brain, “insane in the membrane”.  So many synapses firing in the brain can make you just feel so uneasy and headaches, migraines, etc…come on full speed.  The stress of things might make you feel as if you have lost control over things and even of yourself.images

BUT, how do you deal with stress so it doesn’t ruin a relationship?  Again, these are just my opinions and things that I truly believe I need to start applying myself. FIGURE OUT WHAT IS BOTHERING YOU!!!  That way, when you are communicating with your partner, you will have a true grasp of what needs to be talked about and in dire need of being addressed, rather that just throwing random things out in the open that have no relevance or urgency as to the cause of your stress.  If it is something that is happening in your relationship that is causing the stress, then deal with it directly.  No one like a person who just talks in circles because that not only makes people dizzy but causes added stress and tension to the conversation.

STAY CONNECTED!!!  Again, communicate with the person you entrust your secrets to and who has been through your good and bad days.  Make time for one another.  Remove yourself from the outside going-ons and just “be” together.  Do things together that make you both happy and that you can laugh at, take pleasure in and “just be.”

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MAINTAIN INTIMACY!!!!  Whether it be a surprise kiss, a longing and affectionate embrace or the obvious of what intimacy is to most people, DON’T LOOSE TOUCH (literally).  Even though life might be stressful at the moment, that intimacy could lessen, alleviate, relieve that unwanted pressure running through your body and mind.  Sex not only lessens stress, but counts as exercise, lowers heart attack risk, improves sleep,and of course has many more positive contributions to your body.  OH and IT HELPS YOU STAY CONNECTED!!!

Lastly, FIND BALANCE!!!  Whether that be in your personal life or professional life, try to balance things out. Eliminate things that aren’t needed or delegate things to take the weight off of your shoulders.  BREATHE, BREATHE, BREATHE. I think there is some truth to taking 10 deep breathes to help you regain focus, control and calm your self. I think I need about 20 or more sometimes, but hey it’s a work in progress.

So, these are just a few things that I think might be helpful in addressing stress in your life so it doesn’t affect your health your relationships.